Unnecessary Drama

What is Drama? Really

When I consider the word ‘drama, ‘I view it as a reaction to significant, life-altering events. These could be the illness of a family member, the loss of a loved one, a health crisis, a car accident, a house fire, or an addiction that can dramatically change your life in an instant. The dictionary defines drama as an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or circumstances, aligning with my understanding of life’s dramatic moments.

Unneeded Drama

However, many people believe drama to be something completely different. I dealt with this just the other day. If you’re going to get upset over the he said, she said situation and then stir the pot of emotions to get everyone around you upset, this is unneeded drama. What I do know is that if someone is causing unneeded drama, it’s really a cry out for help in other areas of their life and most of the time, they’re just taking it out on another individual.

The Impact of Drama

It’s crucial to recognize that some individuals, while seemingly thriving on unnecessary drama, may be unaware of the negative impact of their actions. Their behavior, while providing a temporary boost for them, may not effectively address the underlying causes of their unhappiness. Drama is inherent in human interaction, encompassing emotions and social elements. However, it’s equally important to distance yourself from toxic individuals indifferent to their drama’s detrimental impact on others. This step is essential for your well-being and peace of mind.

Necessary vs. Unnecessary 

Now let me explain: when I say I do not deal with drama, that is precisely what I mean. The worst feeling in the world is to get a phone call from one of your children telling you that they have cancer or a call from a stranger telling you that your child was in an accident and being life-flighted to an emergency room and you’re 3 or more hours away. Your house is burning to the ground, and you are left with nothing but your family and clothes behind. At those moments, that’s a dramatic change in your life. No one can tell you that your world doesn’t stop at that moment. So, when the drama starts to unfold in a situation like any of these, I call it necessary dramatic drama.

Peace without drama

While the world is full of people who like to cause unnecessary drama, I will walk away and cut you out of my life. Life is full of choices and consequences. If you choose to have unnecessary drama around you, then naturally, there will be stress in your life. I look at it as if I have enough stress in my own life for anyone trying to bring it into my life without it being wanted. While I am still learning in life, One of the best things I have ever learned is that friends and family come in seasons, and you are responsible for your own decisions and actions, so if you don’t want people who like to cause drama in your life, it’s OK to step away from those people. I have even apologized to people before and stepped away for things I do not think I was in the wrong for. But in the hopes that it would put them at some peace, I could go on with my life, and they could go on with theirs without inner confrontation between us in the future. Now, it doesn’t mean that I want to have a close relationship with these individuals, not at all. It just means that I have put myself at peace without their drama, and I am happier with my life and the hope that they will one day be happy in theirs.

Choosing peace is ok

This scripture says it best, so I understand if you took nothing else away from this little blog this morning. It’s not just OK to walk away when you’re done with an unnecessary dramatic situation; it’s liberating. It’s a step towards regaining control and finding peace in your life.

Exodus 14:14: “The Lord shall fight for you, ye shall hold your peace.” This scripture encapsulates the essence of dealing with unnecessary drama. It’s a reminder that sometimes, the best way to win a battle is to not engage in it. Don’t allow the need to be suitable to cause you to engage in unnecessary confrontations with family or friends. Instead, hold your peace and walk away when you’re done with the drama.